Dear Denise: My husband (58) wants to go to a nudist resort for a holiday

This is an email I never thought I would send but I 53, am currently at loggerheads with my husband 58, about our summer holiday plans because my he wants to go to a nudist resort.

Initially I thought he was joking but then he sat me down and started discussing ‘clothing optional’ holiday resorts that he’s love to try. I don’t know where this has come from. He said he’s not interesting in sleeping with other women but he think it will add a bit of spice to our marriage.

I honestly can’t think of anything worse than sipping a cocktail at the pool and looking at strangers and their dangly bits.

Answer: They do say that travel broadens the mind, and it sounds like this holiday could broaden your sex life too. Ultimately, you cannot go on a holiday that you are not comfortable with and your husband shouldn’t expect that from you either.

I would question where this desire has come from and whether or not he’s simply looking to connect with you.

If he is dead set on this, would you consider a compromise? Why not dip your toes into a nudist beach before you go the whole hog? Whatever your decision, it’s clear that you both need to have a really honest conversation.

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Biting can be a real turn on for a lot of people. As long as you have consent and go gently, go for it.

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If you’re into this person than absolutely not. First time encounters aren’t known for their fireworks.