Dear Maura: I can’t get steamy wedding dance with stranger out of my head

It was a beautiful Ed Sheeran song, one of my favourites and I was dying to dance. But my husband had just ordered a pint and was in full conversation at the bar. Nothing wrong with that, I know.

Anyway, a lovely man offered to dance with me but it wasn’t just a ‘dance’.

His moves, how he held me, how we were together, so in tune with the music I thought I could easily have had an orgasm.

A few aunts were looking with stinky eyes but I only had eyes for my partner and I didn’t care.

Afterwards he told me I was a wonderful dancer. I never heard that before. He went back to his friends and that was that.

The problem is I can’t get that experience out of my mind. Just a few minutes but it changed me in some way. Enough for me to figure out our marriage is missing a lot.

After 15 years and two children everyone gets into a routine.

I’m shocked to even say this but I’m not physically attracted to my husband and haven’t been for some time.

I keep dreaming of the wedding dance. It’s unsettled me and I don’t know where to go from here.

​Answer: I think this dance awakened in you a hunger, not just sexual, but a longing for more in your life.

Routine, which we all subscribe to, takes spontaneity away and we definitely need a bit of that in our lives, to keep the energy flowing. We navigate through daily life this way. And it works on one level.

The key is to offset this habit, if you like, by bringing other activities, experiences into your life. The dance made you feel alive and sexy.

The description of your husband at the wedding speaks volumes.

But maybe you both haven’t given enough attention to your relationship in a while.

You need to talk, as I always say, to work out the source of this discontent.

Email your problems to: Maura O’Neill maura.oneill@sundayworld.com